How to Make Friends

We all need love, but we also need friends. There’s a lot of talk about relationship and dating, but not much on friendship. How do we make good friends? Here are a few words of advice. Pick which one matter to you most. 

Friends not only know each other, but they also know each others’ friends. If you believe you know someone well, but don’t know who their friends are, more likely you don’t know them yet. You can know a lot about a person by the people they choose to surround themselves with. 

If you date someone, “date” their friends, too. What I mean is, don’t just go out on dates alone, but date your friend in a group context. FInd out who their friends are and why they like each one. And if someone is dating you but are not interested in your friends, then they are not really interested in you as a complete package yet. They like something about you, but have not made the effort to get to know you beyond a “you and me only” level. Perhaps in the initial novelty phase of a courtship that will satisfy, but in a long-lasting relationship, good friends will want to know each others’ friends. 

Friends don’t need to try to convince. Friends don’t need much persuasion. Yes, friends differ in opinion, but friends like similar things and share similar interests. C.S. Lewis said friends are sort of like two people walking along a path and turning to their side to find, “O! There you are!” We both happen to like similar activities and the shared interest creates a mutual bond. The more activities you do with someone, the more friendship bond is created – quite naturally. It’s not forced or coerced. It should not seem akward and contrived. Just go out an find an interest, get involved in some activities – church is a great place to start – and you will instantly make some new friends! Then find out who their friends are, and if they want to know who your friends are, then you both are on your way to building a good friendship!  

I’ll share more thoughts on friends as I’m inspired. Your friend who shares an interest in Blogging activity! 

 

 

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Littering is Sin

As I travel in developing countries I notice how much dirtier they are than Christian countries. Here is my inspired thought.

We have a problem defining what is sin because we really don’t have a concept of what Heaven is. Heaven is a perfect place, the kind of perfect that each of us would truly enjoy, no crime, criminals, poverty, pain, stinky smells or noisy traffics. It is an environment filled with love, beauty, grace and giving. A place with no stress and no sin.

Now how would one go about defining the qualifications to enter this place? God has done a pretty good job with the 10 Commandments. But somehow religion has done us a disservice by misconstruing the Law: Pharisees justify their violations of the Law, bending the law and finding ways around the law. For instance, most people today really believe they are a pretty good person because “I haven’t killed anybody”. Jesus dealt with this misapplication of the Law by teaching, “You heard it said that you shall not murder, but I say to you if you hate anyone or ever call anyone a name, you’re already a murderer in your heart!” John added, “No murderer has eternal life.” You see, no one will hate anyone in Heaven, so no hater can ever be allowed in Heaven. Simple logic.

The Bible examples are perfect and it’s impossible to improve on them, but for the exercise of modernizing an old lesson to a new audience, I’d like to take you into my imaginary world for a moment. Pretend with me that I am the gatekeeper of Heaven for a moment, and I get to choose the qualifications for entry. I would make one of my modern commandments very simple: thou shalt not litter. Continue reading

Science and Life

I am not a scientist by profession, but I did study university level chemistry and biology, finishing top of both classes. Science, if it is honest, is just one way of studying what God has made. It helps us know God more, but it is certainly not the only way of looking at the universe or knowing God. Even Einstein said, “God is subtle,” meaning God rewards those who think deeply and search for Him diligently. Hebrews 11:6 says “He is a rewarder of them who diligently seek Him.” As I think about science, I think about God. As I think about God, my ability to reason fulfills its raison d’etre. More thoughts to follow…

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Inspired Thoughts

These are my thoughts inspired while I travel around the world (40 countries and counting). I travel for God, divine cause, humanitarian aid, adventure, fun and sometimes… to do nothing at all… except write.

My intention is that my children will read my public diary one day and enjoy the wisdom and experiences I gathered on my journey with God through life.

You’ll get a good story, free tips for your health and travels and some random, hopefully profound thoughts.